This season I felt the need to write on this topic after hearing a friendly comment made by one of my beautiful neighbors (haha). Acknowledging my grumpy today; I appreciate the effort of being neighborly. Observing a good connection with youth for some reason perhaps out of a natural need to teach I have no yet explored. That being said this neighbor is an adult however youthful to me. A positive change for the times. The idea of being controlling or possessive in a relationships rather it be a marriage, dating, friendship or even working relationship. My mantra this year begins with Peace & love therefore any aggressive tendencies are out of the picture or tempered by self control. Meaning less verbal cursing and more assertive communication. - A.T. (Yoda) Brooks
When querying A.I. on the topic the below answer was provided, the below words are not my own:
- "While both terms can sometimes overlap, "control" in a relationship refers to actively trying to dictate a partner's behavior and choices, often to fit one's own desires, while "possessiveness" focuses on a strong desire to exclusively claim a partner as "yours" and can manifest through extreme jealousy or attempts to isolate them from others, often stemming from insecurity. [1, 2, 3, 4, 5]
- Focus: Controlling behavior aims to manipulate actions and decisions, while possessiveness is more centered around the idea of "ownership" over a partner. [1, 3, 4]
- Motivation: Control can be driven by a need for power or a desire to micromanage, while possessiveness often stems from fear of abandonment or low self-esteem. [1, 5, 6]
- Examples: [3, 4, 6]
- Controlling: Dictating who a partner can spend time with, monitoring their phone, criticizing their appearance based on personal standards. [3, 4, 6]
- Possessive: Accusing a partner of flirting with others constantly, becoming upset when they spend time with friends without you, isolating them from social circles. [2, 3]
Generative AI is experimental.
